{"id":581,"date":"2018-01-26T13:33:17","date_gmt":"2018-01-26T11:33:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/3gozdergisi.com\/?p=581"},"modified":"2018-01-30T09:34:23","modified_gmt":"2018-01-30T07:34:23","slug":"581","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/3gozdergisi.com\/?p=581","title":{"rendered":"\u0130leti\u015fim kazalar\u0131nda kay\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z bo\u015f mu, dolu mu?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcnlerden bir g\u00fcn bir ileti\u015fim kazas\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Kazaya sebebiyet veren bendim.<\/div>\n
Bir arkada\u015fa do\u011frudan sordu\u011fum sorudan dolay\u0131 oldu kaza… Ben sadece bir soru sormu\u015ftum, o soruyu hakaret alg\u0131lad\u0131. Sonradan konu\u015ftu\u011fumuzda da; ses tonumun, bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131n, yayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m enerjinin b\u00f6yle yans\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etti. \u00dcz\u00fcld\u00fcm ama d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm de!<\/div>\n
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Hani bir s\u00f6z vard\u0131r ya, “Siz ne s\u00f6ylerseniz s\u00f6yleyin, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin alg\u0131s\u0131 kadard\u0131r anlatabildi\u011finiz”. Ben \u00f6yle demedi\u011fimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken o neden b\u00f6yle anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131?<\/div>\n
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\u0130\u00e7ine girdi\u011fi duygu onu ba\u015fka bir duyguya g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. \u00d6fkelendi. \u00dcz\u00fcld\u00fc. Sorum sorudan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131 resmen. Duygu y\u00f6netimi konusunu bildi\u011fim i\u00e7in ben sakindim. Ve duygu temizli\u011fi benim i\u00e7in \u00f6nemlidir. Ak\u015fam olunca o g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z duyguyu temizlemeden ayr\u0131lmad\u0131k \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc birbirimize ve kurdu\u011fumuz ileti\u015fime de\u011fer veriyorduk. Ona g\u00fczel bir hikaye ile aktarabilmi\u015ftim hikayeyi. G\u00fczel olan \u015fu ki; alg\u0131y\u0131 anlamaya a\u00e7mak ve yanl\u0131\u015f anlamalar\u0131 an\u0131nda d\u00fczenlemek \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u0130\u015fte bu bizim hikayemiz.<\/div>\n
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—BU KAYIK DA BO\u015e—<\/p>\n

Zen ustalar\u0131ndan biri olan Lin Chi’den bir hikaye:
\nGen\u00e7ken tekneler beni b\u00fcy\u00fclerdi. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir kay\u0131\u011f\u0131m vard\u0131 ve yaln\u0131z ba\u015f\u0131ma kay\u0131\u011f\u0131mla g\u00f6le a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131m. Saatlerce kal\u0131rd\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Bir seferinde g\u00fczel bir gecede kapal\u0131 g\u00f6zlerle, kay\u0131\u011f\u0131mda meditasyon yap\u0131yordum. Birden bir kay\u0131k geldi ve benimkine \u00e7arpt\u0131. G\u00f6zlerim kapal\u0131yd\u0131, bu y\u00fczden \u015f\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm:
\n“Biri kay\u0131\u011f\u0131yla geldi ve kay\u0131\u011f\u0131ma \u00e7arpt\u0131..!”<\/p>\n

\u0130\u00e7imde \u00f6fke y\u00fckseldi. G\u00f6zlerimi a\u00e7t\u0131m ve \u00f6fke i\u00e7inde adama bir \u015fey s\u00f6yleyecekken kay\u0131\u011f\u0131n bo\u015f oldu\u011funu fark ettim.
\nO zaman hareket edecek y\u00f6n kalmad\u0131. \u00d6fkemi kime ifade edecektim? Kay\u0131k bo\u015ftu. R\u00fczgarla gelip benim kay\u0131\u011f\u0131ma \u00e7arpm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Bu y\u00fczden yapacak hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yoktu. \u00d6fkemi bo\u015f bir kay\u0131\u011fa yans\u0131tamazd\u0131m.<\/p>\n

G\u00f6zlerimi kapatt\u0131m… G\u00fcl\u00fcmsedim ve sessiz kald\u0131m.
\nO bo\u015f kay\u0131k benim fark edi\u015fim oldu.
\nO sessiz gece de, i\u00e7imde bir noktaya geldim.
\nO bo\u015f kay\u0131k benim ustam olmu\u015ftu…<\/p>\n

Art\u0131k biri gelip bana hakaret etti\u011finde i\u00e7imden diyorum ki:
\n“BU KAYIK DA BO\u015e…”
\nG\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyorum ve sessiz kal\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Kazas\u0131z ileti\u015fimler dile\u011fiyle…<\/div>\n
Sevgiler,<\/div>\n
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Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcnlerden bir g\u00fcn bir ileti\u015fim kazas\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Kazaya sebebiyet veren bendim. Bir arkada\u015fa do\u011frudan sordu\u011fum sorudan dolay\u0131 oldu kaza… Ben sadece bir soru sormu\u015ftum, o soruyu hakaret alg\u0131lad\u0131. Sonradan konu\u015ftu\u011fumuzda da; ses tonumun, bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131n, yayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m enerjinin b\u00f6yle yans\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etti. \u00dcz\u00fcld\u00fcm ama d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm de! Hani bir s\u00f6z vard\u0131r ya,Read More →<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":582,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["entry","author-gulerpinarbasi","post-581","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-genel"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/3gozdergisi.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/bo%C5%9F-kay%C4%B1k.jpg?fit=960%2C718&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":1469,"url":"https:\/\/3gozdergisi.com\/?p=1469","url_meta":{"origin":581,"position":0},"title":"Zihin ve Benlik","author":"g\u00fcler p\u0131narba\u015f\u0131","date":"20 Aral\u0131k 2019","format":false,"excerpt":"Dergide yazar m\u0131s\u0131n? teklifi geldi\u011finde, payla\u015fmak istedi\u011fim \u015feylerin \u00e7oklu\u011fu ve ne yazsam ki acaba diye ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n birbirine kar\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 ile bilgisayar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na oturdum. 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