{"id":593,"date":"2018-01-26T14:21:31","date_gmt":"2018-01-26T12:21:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/3gozdergisi.com\/?p=593"},"modified":"2018-02-15T19:56:35","modified_gmt":"2018-02-15T17:56:35","slug":"suclamaktan-ve-sikayet-etmekten-vazgecmek","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/3gozdergisi.com\/?p=593","title":{"rendered":"Su\u00e7lamaktan ve \u015eikayet Etmekten Vazge\u00e7mek."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Uzun y\u0131llard\u0131r Sedona’daki evimizin camlar\u0131n\u0131 temizlemesi i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 insanla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Geldi\u011fi zaman harika bir i\u015f \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131yor, ama \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zamanlar\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7te ikisinde, gelemeyece\u011fini \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, so\u011fu\u011fa yakaland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ya da ba\u015fka k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131k ge\u00e7irdi\u011fini, \u00e7ok trafik oldu\u011funu, havan\u0131n \u00e7ok s\u0131cak ya da \u00e7ok so\u011fuk oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yler. Art\u0131k ona nas\u0131l oldu\u011funu sormamay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendik, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc hep ayn\u0131 cevab\u0131 al\u0131yoruz. Can\u0131 \u00e7ok s\u0131kk\u0131n, i\u015fleri durgun, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fc ve t\u00fcm \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131 tembel, g\u00fcvenilmez ve vas\u0131fs\u0131z. (Hala onunla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc geldi\u011fi zamanlarda harika bir i\u015f \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131yor.)<\/span><\/p>\n

Susanna 42 ya\u015f\u0131nda, \u00e7ekici, canl\u0131, zeki ve \u015fiddete maruz kalan kad\u0131nlarla yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar konusunda son derece tutkulu bir kad\u0131nd\u0131. Ancak s\u00fcrekli g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc erkeklerin yeterince zeki, hassas, enerji dolu veya anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olmamalar\u0131ndan \u015fikayet ediyordu. Kimle birlikte olursa olsun — ve pek \u00e7ok ili\u015fkisi oldu — k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede onlarda bir kusur buldu. Zaman i\u00e7inde \u015fikayetleri havaya, \u00e7evreye ya da i\u015fler onun istedi\u011fi gibi gitmedi\u011finde herhangi bir duruma kadar uzand\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n

Matthew bir bilgisayar analistiydi ve s\u00fcrekli i\u015finden yak\u0131n\u0131yordu. Patronu \u00e7ok kabayd\u0131, i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131 \u00e7ok aptald\u0131 ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ofis \u00e7ok g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc ve kaotik bir ortamd\u0131. Yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey onu mutsuz ediyordu ve her zaman bir terapi uzman\u0131 olmay\u0131 hayal etmi\u015fti, ama hi\u00e7bir zaman kendine yeterince g\u00fcvenmemi\u015fti ve kendini insanlara yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak bir pozisyonda g\u00f6remiyordu. Bu y\u00fczden nefret etti\u011fi konforlu i\u015finde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya devam ediyor ve \u015fikayet ediyordu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hepimizin k\u00f6t\u00fc hissetti\u011fimiz ve cesaretimizin k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 zamanlar vard\u0131r ve bir \u015feyler bizim istedi\u011fimiz gibi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \u015fikayet eder, insanlar\u0131 veya \u00e7evremizi su\u00e7lar\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ya\u015famlar\u0131m\u0131zda \u00f6d\u00fcnler verdi\u011fimizde ve i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e bizim i\u00e7in do\u011fru oldu\u011funu bildi\u011fimiz \u015fekilde ya\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u015fikayet ederiz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ya da sevdi\u011fimiz insan hakk\u0131nda \u015fikayet etmek i\u00e7in her t\u00fcrl\u00fc sebebi buluruz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ama bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131n bask\u0131n gelmelerine izin verdi\u011fimizde, bu durum ya\u015famlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ve hem kendimize hem de ba\u015fka insanlara bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 etkiler.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dahas\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve konu\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z ne kadar \u00e7ok olumsuzluk, \u015fikayet ve su\u00e7lamayla dolarsa, kendi \u00f6zsayg\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 o kadar \u00e7ok zehirleriz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Su\u00e7lama ve \u015fikayet ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k gibidir.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bunu otomatik bir \u015fekilde, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k gere\u011fi ve \u00e7o\u011fu zaman fark\u0131nda olmadan yapar\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00d6yleyse bu olumsuz al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011fa nas\u0131l son veririz?<\/span><\/p>\n

Su\u00e7lama ve \u015fikayet al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zla ba\u015f etmenin birinci ad\u0131m\u0131,\u00a0<\/span>bunu yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na varmak ve bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n hayatlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sabote etti\u011fini g\u00f6rmektir.<\/span><\/p>\n

Su\u00e7lay\u0131p \u015fikayet etti\u011fimizde, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zorluklar\u0131n bizim ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za geldi\u011fine inanan bir kurban bilincinin hakimiyeti alt\u0131na gireriz. Bu tip bir bilin\u00e7te, \u00e7aresiz ve g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz hisseder, ama daha derin duygulardan yoksun kal\u0131r\u0131z. Yaral\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz taraf\u0131ndan ku\u015fat\u0131l\u0131r\u0131z ve olaylar\u0131 net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6remeyiz. Dahas\u0131, bu evrede, olan biten \u015feyler i\u00e7in sorumluluk almad\u0131k\u00e7a hayat\u0131m\u0131zda hi\u00e7bir \u015fey de\u011fi\u015fmez. Olumsuzluk olumsuzlu\u011fu \u00e7eker.\u00a0 Bizim d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcm\u00fcz ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6rmek ve onu sahiplenmektir. Ve elbette kendimize kar\u015f\u0131 nazik ve \u015fefkatli olmak. Derindeki ac\u0131y\u0131 hissetmek.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130kinci ad\u0131m, \u015fikayet ve su\u00e7lamalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ger\u00e7ek oldu\u011funa inanarak olumsuz tav\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131za mazeretler bulup bulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlamak ve asl\u0131nda\u00a0<\/span>\u015fikayet etmek ve su\u00e7lamak i\u00e7in hi\u00e7bir ger\u00e7ek sebebimiz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131na varmakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc ad\u0131m bunu\u00a0<\/span>neden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlamakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c7o\u011fumuz olumsuz olmaya ko\u015fulland\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131k \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ya ebeveynlerimizin olumsuzlu\u011funu \u00f6z\u00fcmsedik ya da \u00e7ocukken g\u00fcvenimiz ayaklar alt\u0131na al\u0131nd\u0131 ve g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz muamele di\u011fer insanlara ve hayata olan g\u00fcvenimizi k\u0131rd\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n

Susanna’n\u0131n durumunda, bunun ailesinden geldi\u011fi a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n

Alkolik ve \u00f6fkeli bir baba ve kendini saplant\u0131 haline getirmi\u015f, sevgisiz ve etraf\u0131ndaki her \u015feyi ve herkesi su\u00e7layan bir anne taraf\u0131ndan yeti\u015ftirilmi\u015fti. Dahas\u0131, annesi s\u00fcrekli onun isyankar davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na, onun k\u00f6t\u00fc bir insan oldu\u011funu ve asla onu sevecek bir erkek bulamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyerek kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k verdi. ‘Yaramazl\u0131k yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda,’ babas\u0131ndan onu d\u00f6vmesini istedi. Dayaklar s\u0131k ve ac\u0131mas\u0131zd\u0131. Bu \u015fiddet davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden Susanna g\u00fcvenini yitirdi. S\u00fcrekli yak\u0131nmalar\u0131 onun g\u00fcvensizlikleri ve herhangi birine kendini a\u00e7ma konusundaki korkular\u0131 i\u00e7in birer maskeydi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Matthew, onun uzakla\u015fma ve kendini bulma gayretlerini bo\u015fa \u00e7\u0131karan a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 korumac\u0131 ve bo\u011fucu bir anne taraf\u0131ndan yeti\u015ftirilmi\u015fti. \u015eimdi, yeni ve riskli bir \u015fey yapmay\u0131 hayal etti\u011finde, i\u00e7indeki anne sesi ona g\u00fcvenilir ve bilindik olandan ayr\u0131lmamas\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyordu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla su\u00e7lamay\u0131 ve \u015fikayet etmeyi b\u0131rakmaya yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc ad\u0131m, kendimizi bu olumsuz ruh hali i\u00e7inde yakalad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z anlarda korku ve \u00e7aresizlikle ba\u011f kurmakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/p>\n

K\u0131sacas\u0131, su\u00e7lamaktan ve \u015fikayet etmekten vazge\u00e7mek i\u00e7in, bunlar\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda bunun fark\u0131na varmal\u0131, mazeretler bulmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmal\u0131, bu olumsuz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan nereden geldi\u011fini anlamal\u0131, bunlar\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 fark etti\u011fimizde kendimize merhametle yakla\u015fmal\u0131 ve \u00e7aresizli\u011fimizle ba\u011f kurmal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ancak bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k \u00e7ok derin oldu\u011fundan ve biz onlara fazlas\u0131yla al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan, bunlar\u0131 yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ana fark\u0131ndal\u0131k katmak kolay de\u011fildir. \u00c7aba gerektirir.<\/span><\/p>\n

Susanna’n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklu\u011funun ona bu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 nas\u0131l ailesinin olumsuz tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 benimseyerek ve g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc muamele kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u00fcvenini kaybederek \u00f6\u011fretti\u011fini anlamas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olarak ba\u015flad\u0131k.<\/span><\/p>\n

Susanna’dan \u015fikayet etti\u011fi veya su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131 her an\u0131 izlemek i\u00e7in \u00f6zel bir \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermesini ve kendine, bunu merhametle, kendini yarg\u0131lamadan yapmay\u0131 hat\u0131rlatmas\u0131n\u0131 istedik.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sonra ondan bir ad\u0131m daha atmas\u0131n\u0131 ve kendine \u015fu soruyu sormas\u0131n\u0131 istedik, ‘\u015eu anda korkum nedir?’<\/span><\/p>\n

Ayn\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 pencerelerimizi temizleyen adamla yapmad\u0131k, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc o bizim pencere temizleyicimizdir, dan\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131m\u0131zdan biri de\u011fil.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sevgilerimizle, <\/span><\/div>\n

Yaz\u0131: Krishananda ve Amana<\/span><\/p>\n

Kaynak: Sevgiyi \u00d6\u011frenme Gazetesi – Learning Love Instute<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Uzun y\u0131llard\u0131r Sedona’daki evimizin camlar\u0131n\u0131 temizlemesi i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 insanla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Geldi\u011fi zaman harika bir i\u015f \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131yor, ama \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zamanlar\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7te ikisinde, gelemeyece\u011fini \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, so\u011fu\u011fa yakaland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ya da ba\u015fka k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131k ge\u00e7irdi\u011fini, \u00e7ok trafik oldu\u011funu, havan\u0131n \u00e7ok s\u0131cak ya da \u00e7ok so\u011fuk oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yler. 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